Humans are funny about opinions. We all have one, but we all have a rear end too. Is it really necessary to push it onto someone in disagreement? Especially when its sole purpose is harmful, and its intention is to be disrespectful to a fellow person? Really though, what ever happened to, “you do you, and I’ll do me?” Or even, “live and let live,” and ultimately, “together we stand.”
Love is energy, not skin a color. It isn’t a gender either, now that it’s mentioned. Love runs through people like a current. It pulses and flows, like an electrical wave. It can grow, or change, and it can fade. Love is an emotion. It isn’t shallow or naive. Love isn’t packed to the brim with judgement. It can be argued that anyone with anti-interracial couples intentions really don’t have much of a concept of love. They don’t even necessarily have to be racist, but to feel like two different races should not mix. Either way, its argued that they’re forming this opinion based entirely on thought (or even religion), rather than emotion.
I’m pro-love. Be it any race, mixed or not. We are all people. We all have a beating heart in our chests, and the same air in our lungs. Period.
Some will say that interracial couples are paving the way. They are pushing acceptance on an issue that has been frowned upon for some time. In some cases that may be, it really may just depend on where exactly said couples are located. In a world that’s sadly full of hate crimes, and with racism at full swing (be it any one race toward another), interracial couples can sometimes be the target of violence and abuse. Which is sad, to say the least.
I live in a fairly small community. It’s a simple place, and arguably sheltered in many ways. Although hate crime and reported racism isn’t very high, it is still present. Just like anywhere, it exists. A couple of years ago I was working a nine to five job supervising at a local telecommunications center. Two individuals that I was overseeing, or that were on my “team”, were indeed an interracial couple. The only interracial couple at that place of employment to be exact. Just like any couple in most places of employment they were restricted, unable to hold hands and/or show their affection publicly. Yet they sat close and it was a known fact that they were together, just like several other couples who worked there. I never gave it a second thought, and I assumed that no one else did either. They we’re both the nicest people and clearly in love.
One day during a one on one sit down with the woman, she brought it to my attention that a few others on our team were “awkward” toward them. I wasn’t exactly sure how to approach the situation. Technically they weren’t being targeted or attacked in anyway. I apologized to her, and promised to look into the company policy, and see if there was anything I could do. I found nothing, and not from lack of trying. During the next group meeting with each of our team members present, I paid attention… Quietly and thoroughly.
Sure enough, there was some very uncomfortable and unnecessary tension. There were a few individuals on the team who avoided eye contact with the couple completely. They spoke to everyone else around the table, aside from the couple. There were also a few people who were purposefully over-friendly, as if trying to prove they were accepting in some way. I don’t even know how else to explain the situation, other than the vibes at the table throughout the meeting were weird. Honestly, I don’t know how I had missed it before.
Ultimately there was nothing I could do. The rest of the team mates didn’t technically do anything wrong. They weren’t mean. They didn’t say anything or do anything out of line. How exactly are you supposed to make someone not be “awkward.” I told the couple that if they wished to stay on the same team as one another, then they would just have to take it as it comes. If not then I could transfer one or the other to a different team, and perhaps apart they wouldn’t get the strange looks and unaccepting behavior. Within the week my offer was irrelevant as one of them ended up finding a higher paying job elsewhere, and they both ended up quitting.
Sadly, this type of situation happens way too often! When it all comes down to it, we are in fact all entitled to our own opinions. But, wouldn’t this world be a better place if we could all be accepting of humanity of every sort and in every place across the globe? Minus the judgement (be it violent and vocal, or just plain old obvious in other ways). Our lives as people in general would be much more pleasant. Perhaps we should pull together as a human race and each do our best to make that happen.
CTM Interviewed the award winning author Ben Burgess the author of Black and White. This novel touches on issues surrounding interracial relationships. Meet the author and read his interview here.