Before I read the novel Black and White by author Ben Burgess, I never really understood deeply the stigma around interracial relationships. This book set me straight in just 300 pages. It’s not that I’m naïve, I know that stigma is there. Being London born and bred the society I live in is swimming with different cultures, especially the part of London I live in. Interracial relationships in my part of the world are normal, accepted and not really questioned. That said the farther north you go from London away from the major cities, this is probably not the case.
Don’t get me wrong I do know people out there who are really against interracial relationships, and I can understand the arguments I have heard, when I have discussed this before. Such as, “it’s not possible for another race to really understand what you go through day to day, or understand your own culture.” Fair enough, the first part maybe true you can never really understand what someone else experiences, you can however have empathy toward it. When it comes to culture, it’s not impossible to learn and appreciate one that’s different from your own.
I read Ben Burgess’ novel and looked at the world differently, it made me understand that there really is a need to fight for your love if you’re in an interracial relationship. This should never be the case. The world is full of stereotypes, assumptions and I started to wonder if we’ll ever all just live and get along.
My hope is that one day interracial relationships will be the norm and unquestioned in all of society, not just diverse major cities. With the amount of immigration that happens it will be difficult to not cross paths with someone different to you, and possibly fall in love.
Love is love, and a connection is a connection it can’t really be attached to a skin colour or even gender. As humans, we can’t help who we fall for and should never be judged for our partner choices. Skin colour is just that– a colour. It does not make you any better suited for someone, it’s all down to your character. If your character is suited to someone but your skin colour is different what’s the big deal?
I had the chance to interview the award winning author of the novel Black and White – Ben Burgess. I loved the book and meeting him. To meet the author and read his interview see here.