Sex & Relationships

Five Ways to Regain Romance in Your Marriage

Written by Savannah Esposito

Romance, the very word conjures up images of Valentine’s Day, flowers, chocolates, and first dates. When two people have been together for years, romance can fade into the background as the years pass by. One day you have kids, change careers, get pets, have meetings, and daily stress. With your career and kids and other stressors taking up your time, romance is forgotten, and suddenly your partner and you lose that spark, and wonder, “How do I get us back?”

Romance has a powerful effect to ignite the spark again if done right. Some people are not romantic naturally and can struggle to show their love for their spouses. The key to romance is that you communicate in one way or another that you are thinking about your partner, and show them that they are important at the end of the day. So how does one bring romance back into the marriage? Here are five ways to show your love:

  • Write a Love Letter
    • Nothing says, “I love you” more than a handwritten love letter. Yes, it should be handwritten. Write about the time you met and how much you have grown as a couple and the reasons you love and appreciate your spouse.
  • Know Their Love Language
    • Gary Chapmans 5 Love Languages are very important when it comes to ways you communicate your love. The five languages are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, and Gifts. If you aren’t sure what love language you or your spouse is, you can take the quiz here!
  • Know Your Spouse
    • Simple, think about your spouse. What makes them tick? Do they like flowers? What kind? Do they love watches? What type? Start writing down a list of all the things you know your spouse loves and choose one to do.
  • Bonding
    • This requires both individuals giving each other undivided attention to talk and create emotional intimacy with each other. Maybe write down questions you have for each other, put them in a hat and shake it, and pull a question out and have you both answer the question. You could just learn something new about your partner! Another way to bond is to find a hobby to do together, maybe something weekly you can do together.
  • Love Books and Coupons
    • Either buying or writing little love coupons is an easy gift and a romantic one at that. The benefit of doing them yourself means you can tailor the coupons to your spouse’s specific needs and desires. For instance, if they love getting foot massages, give your spouse a couple of coupons for a twenty-minute food massage. Another romantic idea is to make a book of all your memories together on blurb.

Hopefully, one of these ideas sounds doable and inspires you to go romance your spouse!

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About the author

Savannah Esposito

Savannah has been writing since she was fifteen years old when she started a book series, which became popular online. She attended SCAD, studying Creative and Dramatic writing until she transferred to John Jay College of Criminal Justice to study Forensic Psychology. She now has a blog called Millennial Mrs and Mom that she writes while she finishes pursuing her education.

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