When thirsting for inspiration or spiritual guidance exploring the words of spiritual teachers like Pema Chodron, a Buddhisht nun or Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh is a benevolent choice. The deep wisdom and profound insights lift us up, strengthen our spirit, and develop our soul.
But, where do we turn if we just aren’t into that…what if we crave wisdom with grit, sass, and large shots of human reality!Look no further than the intelligent, humorous writers from the iconic HBO hit series Sex and the City. Their style of wisdom creates a satisfying cocktail of soulfulness with a twist of cheeky. For now, until the beloved characters and talented writers reappear, we will relish the wisdom that lives on…
“There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back.But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous!”
“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.”
“Because at the end of another failed relationship, when all you have are war wounds and self-doubt, you have to wonder, what’s it all worth?”
“Eventually all the pieces fall into place…until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment, and know that everything happens for a reason.”
“A girl should let go of the coulda, woulda, shoulda.”
“Soul mate. Two little words, one big concept. A belief that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. So, where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soul mate? Were they just a runner-up contestant in this game show called “Happily Ever After”? And, as you move from age box to age box and the contestants get fewer and fewer, are your chances of finding your soul mate less and less? Soul mates: reality or torture device?”
“I love you, but I love me more.”
“Let me talk about what I’m afraid of. Please?”
The denial part of me wanted to say you’ll be fine.
Instead I said.
“Okay. I’m here.”
“Maybe mistakes are what make our fate… without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change, so do cities, people come into your life and they go.But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart…”
“As progressive as our society claims to be, there are still certain life targets we’re all supposed to hit. Marriage, babies, and a home to call your own. But what if, instead of breaking out in a smile, you break out in a rash? Is something wrong with the system? Or is it you? And do we really want these things? Or are we just programmed?”
“Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe you have to let go of who you were, to become who you will be.”
“Maybe it’s not even advisable to be an optimist after the age of thirty. Maybe pessimism is something we have to start applying daily, like moisturizer. Otherwise, how do you bounce back when reality batters your belief system and love does not, as promised, conquer all. I couldn’t help but wonder…what’s the harm in believing?”
After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot.”
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